The guys state that frequently, “it ain’t what you do, it’s the way that you do it”. We’re all human and liable to make any or a combination of dating blunders, so if you spot it and you’ve got it, cut yourself some slack, get out there and just do it differently next time. Life is full of second and subsequent opportunities. The Wise Woman realises that while there’s life, there’s always hope. Here are a few dating boo-boos, as expressed by men:
- Too much, too soon – you don’t have to tell him your life or hard luck story on the first few dates!
- You were too keen – this reeks of desperation.
- He couldn’t get a word in edgewise – shut up and listen.
- You got too physical way too soon, and scared the pants off him – how would YOU feel if the shoe were on the other foot?
- You acted like a slag-off merchant – he knows perfectly well that if you do this about others, you’ll do it about him too.
- You behaved as if you were in a business meeting – please – this is a date not an international contractual negotiation!
- You complained about almost everything on the date – blatantly high maintenance!
- You drank way too much and behaved completely inappropriately – stick to soda water or manage your booze intake.
- You came across as a drama queen – no man – nor woman needs this in their lives.
- The green-eyed monster – remove your dating blinkers and think about this one – hard!
- You’re a screamer – there’s no need to raise your voice and draw attention to yourself.
- You’re insecure and indecisive – if he asks you for your opinion, he really wants it.
- Humourless – nobody wants to date someone who sits there with a face like a funeral.
- You’re a sloppy dater – ugh – don’t show up wearing your worst “Shirley Valentine” tracksuit.
- You asked when he was going to call you – this is right at the top of my Richter Scale of dating faux pas.
- Texting Tourette’s – hugely impolite on a date and afterwards attempting to manipulate him into responding immediately!
- No chemistry – So? It happens. Build a bridge and get over yourself.
In search of dating progress – not dating perfection
Remember – you’re on a self-empowering, not self-castigating, educational path here. It’s not for the faint-hearted. Keep on trucking. It’s a case of aiming for progress, and not perfection.